The Secret of Bonding

Every person is very curious about the bonding with their partner. Every person complains about some or the other thing, but what they have done to strengthen this bonding. Have you every look up the key points to effect this bonding. Just check out...

• Always make time to talk about your day. Even 10-15 minutes spent in conversation can help you stay in touch and feel closer: Schedule this time together and take turns relating some of the events of the day. Choose a time that is not extreamly hectic.
• There is such thing as a good argument. Avoid recurring circular arguments that keep going nowhere without ever getting resolved. Think of disagreements as opportunities to improve or understand your partner better. Though difficult to develop, this attitude will make almost any argument easier to resolve.
• Don't forget to maintain the "little courtesies" and generally show respect and recognition for everyday things. Even simple and little things become more important as relationship mature. Get small, thoughful gifts even when there is no occasion. Bring home flowers, or a special dessert, or just take time out to show your partner how much you appreciate the everyday things they do. The little things are most likely what attracted your partner to you in the first place.
• Never rely on your partner to make you happy. Only you can do that. Have your own hobbies, interests, pastimes, and activities. Though it's a goal or a healthy relationship to enjoy things together, doing everything together can result in boredom, resentment, and feeling trapped. If you get satisfaction from your daily activities, you will be more relaxed and content when you spending time with your partner.
• Don'tassume that your partner will automatically know wht your feelings, needs, want and preferences are, or what mood you are in. If you want to know what your partner is thinking, ask. If you want your partner to know how you feel, tell them. Take what your partner says at face value, and stop second guessing.
• Healthy relationship should bring out the best in you. They should inspire, motivate, and enhance your creativity and well being. If you are waiting for your partner to "change", you may be disappointed. Individual personality, habits, and general style are not likely to chage very much.
• Learn to accept the natural ups and downs of a relationship. Love will always be accompained by a certain amount of hurt, tension, frustration, misunderstanding and jealousy. If your relationship is healthy, with a reasonable amount of communication and a minimum amount of anger and resentment, and if you continue to find you and the relationship growing for the better, you have very little to worry about.
• Every relationship can benefit from a periodic change of pace. Try a new restaurant or rent a hotel room even if you have privacy at home. Experiment with fantacy. Try a style of clothes you've never worn. For a sense of romance, try looking at old photographs, red cards and letters that you've sent each other, or recount your first few dates.
• Give yourself reinforcement after you've successfully tried the techniques to improve your relationship, even if the outcome was not exactly what you wanted. You and your partner should reward yourselves for working together. Try listening to a favourite CD together, or going together to a movie or for some special dessert.
• Recognise some differences between males and females. For men: Women enjoy conversation, communicating in groups, and expressing detail verbally. They dream in detail, interpret situations in terms of personal motives, feelings and consequences, and appreciate positive feedbackfor personal accomplishment. They want to hear words of support and understanding, not advice, suggetions, or harsh critisism. For Women: Men enjoy variety, respond well to good-natured challenges and place a high value on personal space and privacy. If men display their sensitive or emotional side, be sure to give them positive reinforcement.

Every one is aware of all this to make their partners happy, but very few really think that doing things this way may seriously going to strengthen their bonding. As 'nike' logo also coveys 'Just Do It'. So before its too late, just follow these small basic to make their partners happy and feel comfortable with you. Just start doing it.