Insecurities in relationship

I cant tell you what makes me to write this article, but I have learned few things about trusting someone in past few months. Its very obvious that, if you like someone, you have to trust him/her. Any relationship will not progress to any level further if trust between the individuals is missing. Relationship between a client and a support company is same as the relation between a guy and girl. If the client have faith in  support company, its for sure one day or later they will reach new heights. Similarlly, if the chemistry between the girl and the guy is faithful, they will move ahead, else their is not point.

Why these insecurities between individual crop up, lets analyze a bit to have a better idea. Most of the people these days feeel insecure when it comes to their relationship, but why? Even if you ask them, they'll not answer it properly. Ask yourself, you'll also land up in the same place.

You might have seen people who fail in their relationship, so going forward these people are not able to trust other people as well due to theri past experiences. When they try to trust them, the past experience will try to divert them. Even they have been cheated upon or hurt in the past but they are still hung up in their previous relationship. One have to get rid of his/her past experiences before trying to judge anyone. Its also obvious that one cannot be trusted overnight, in the beginning, its better to be little skeptical, trust needs to be developed gradually to prolong the life of a relationship.

I have also observed that, the people who are very possessive about their partners always land-up in loosing them. A possessive person will never be able to think logically and his/her jealousy is quite capable of ruining a healthy relationship. Just try to think logically, that your possessviness will not stop your partner from cheating on you, so its not a good idea. Its better to realize that thier is life too, beyond your relationship so give your partner a healthy space to breathe. Trust comes automatically, you have to earn it, so overpower you attitube of being possessive.

Sometimes when we think, that something is fishy going on around you, always talk to others. Its known fact that hiding or limiting things to yourself not goint to help you, instead it lead to invoke the suspicion of the other people. Its very important to share your emotions and feelings to strengthn your bond. Because more you share, more the mutual bond cutivates. A relationship survives on the basis of the confidence you place on others. Don’t ruin it by being overly secretive. Sometimes we don't able to secure our important things from thieves. Few times the reason is over security, which alarms thieves to snatch them from us.

Negative thinking is our enemy, it will make you do things which you really don't want to do. Distrust on others is a by-product of your hidden fears and negative thinking. Thinking positive is always benficial in keeping relationship alive. Also put a check on yourself, to constantly remind yourself that you have to make your relationship work. Mostly, the people who are not able to trust their partners are full of negative thoughts. You need to conquer your fears if you want to trust your partner whole-heartedly. However, it is equally important to remember that blind trust can bring you unwanted pain.

Another reason for feeling insecure is lack of trust in the relationship which you are into. We always make this mistake of not trusting our partner because we ourself are so insecure own our own and don't wnat to be wounded. Its better to reveal your insecurity with your partner instead of feeling insecure. Those who value the importance of the relationship, they do work on this and sort it out at the earliest. Your partner always try to make yourself feel secure and comfortable. Always try to believe him/her instead of feeling insecure. If you have any insecurity, just initiate a conversation with him/her.

Till now, I discussed few things, which makes you feel insecure. But few more things which I like to highlight to maintain a healthy relationship. I have learned that, people keep on asking the same things again and again in one or different way to their partners due to their insecurities. Try to believe on your partners thoughts, his words, if your are not convinced with him/her ask them to convince you on that at the same time instead of asking the same thing on any other moment in a different fashion. People do these mistakes due to their insecurities. Doing all sort of things will ruin your relationship. Its obvious that when we love somone we don't want to loose him/her at any cost, so we might commit mistakes to save that relationship.

Think about yourself your partner and your relationship. It was in your hands, it is in your hands, it will be in your hands, which direction you want it to go.

I love to hear from you people, what you thing about insecurities in relationships? What makes us feel insecure about our partners? Share your views.